WHEW! Boy has life changed for our home! I know that for a lot of people that are reading this when we posted our new family photo on Facebook that was the first some had heard about a newest addition. October 24,2013 is a day I will NEVER forget. At approximately 2:45p.m I was balling on Josh's shoulder in front of the Judge, our lawyer, court reporter and the defendants to my right. We were quickly shuffled through the Judge's chambers because the bailiff did not feel it was safe for Josh and I to exit through the "normal" doors. All they knew was that there was a lot of hollering and shouting going on and they thought it was against us... I remember saying "Oh no sir, that is just our crazy family. We will be OK." We walk out of the doors and I could not find my Mama's eyes fast enough. We all hugged, kissed, cried, hollered, and tried to gain our composure. It was all so surreal to me. All I could think about was at 5 o'clock that evening Josh and I would be on our way to the Sandersville Police Dept to pick up a little girl that we had been consumed with since July 9, 2013.
These were the first pictures we saw of her. We looked at them a thousand times everyday.



Let's back up to Tuesday, July 9,2013. Just a little FYI I will not disclose names nor certain specific details concerning this. BM = Biological Mother and BF = Biological Father. I was on my lunch break and had went into Kux. I had been looking at this ridiculously huge ring set. It was so not me but none the less I had took a picture of it and sent it to Josh. He, of course, said "get it if you want it." I got in my car and was headed to Subway when my phone rang. After that phone call I was in the middle of the Piggly Wiggly parking lot and not remembering how I got there. Josh and I have gotten a couple of calls in the past regarding possible adopting but they just never seemed right and we just could not get nsync with one another about it. I immediately called my mom. I just cried and cried. I was absolutely terrified to tell Josh. I was terrified because it seemed so perfect and I knew what his first reaction would be. Josh is a realist and takes everything into consideration. He researches everything and wants to know every detail. I was not able to provide him with much because I did not know a lot myself. The call I got was very emotional.... it was emotional because this precious baby at stake is my 2nd cousin and it was my aunt that called me. Josh was, of course, out of town that day so I think I sent him a text. We went back and forth, I cried a lot, we had some disagreements, agreed on some dangers that were at stake, oooed and ahhhed over her cuteness and how much she looked like her BF. Once we agreed that we were going to hold hands and dive into this together we began digging up all the info we could and seeing how many people we knew that could navigate us through this. Again, not going into detail but the BF did not have custody of the child and the BM had gotten into a situation that caused her to lose the child in April. The child was being "raised" by a guardian. Due to a time frame that was set when the baby gotten taken in April the BF was very afraid that he would lose his daughter to complete strangers and never get to see her EVER again.
After trying to go at this situation one angle we decided to that we would bow up and contact the BM. We took her to dinner and it all began from there. Again, I am not going into any details but let me just say I have seen more "stuff" and been around more people that I would never put myself around in my "normal" life. I have become very educated on the world and amazed at the stuff that goes on all around us. It's sad and scary all at the same time. Growing up my parents kept me away from such situations and I am very sheltered when it comes to the "street life". All I could think about was that baby girl. When I would be sitting in my car waiting to pick up the BM from certain places I was like a cat on a hot tin roof. I was a nervous wreck on the inside. But I would just put on my poker face and roll with it. I would pull out my phone and just look at her pictures and reassure myself that it was all going to be ok and that God was with me and he would protect me.
This went on for almost three months. I prayed everyday, several times a day. I was always on my guard and pretty much turned into a hermit. I was emotionally drained every single day. I never knew what email was going to come through or what text message I might get. I pretty much withdrew from society bc my nerves were just awful. I know I became a horrible friend ( sorry gals :) ). Telling a lot of people was a catch 22 for me. I knew that we needed all of the prayers and support that we could get but I am also semi private. I just asked God to lay it on people's hearts to pray for us even if they did not know why. I cannot stand negativity when I am stressed. And there are a lot of Debbie downers out there. So for the sake of not snapping on them and losing my religion on them I just chose to tell a few.
On August 18th we had papers served to the "guardian" of the child. By doing that we knew we would have to go to court. Our first court date was October 7th..... the day after my 30th bday. My bday weekend was amazing but as much fun as it was I still had Monday on my mind. Josh and I knew that the BM had changed her mind. So that Monday came and in front of the Judge she let us all know that she had changed her mind. Luckily, we already knew this and had done our research and kept our ears open for the past three months. We took action and made some request to the Judge. He followed through with them and it paid off. We got some pretty amazing news on October 16th. News that changed the entire course of everything. Josh was in Washington DC when our lawyer called me with the news. I called Josh immediately and was just crying my eyes out. We were so excited and in disbelief. I just kept telling my lawyer on the phone "I cannot believe this! Josh and I just don't get these kinds of breaks!!". We were going to push for an emergency hearing but decided to wait because we already had a trial date set for October 24th. The 23rd came and I was pretty much in a blur that whole day. Mom and Mamaw came to stay with us. We got up that morning and headed out. We thought we were the first trial that morning but an emergency hearing had been ordered for another case so we had to wait. At 1:00 it was time for a lunch break and that trial was still going on. It lasted till a bit after 2:00. THEN it was our time to go. Everyone had to leave the court room. No family or friends could stay. Just the plaintiffs and defendants. I was literally shaking so hard. I had to stick my hands in between my legs to make them stop shaking. After the Judge reviewed the case and heard the testimonies (he did not make josh and I get up on the stand) he made his decision. It seemed like it took him 30 minutes to get it out of his mouth....."....... but here are two people who are able to take care of this child.....". And my eye make up was history! He gave an order to go pick her up at the police dept that evening. I could not believe it!
Cannot Thank this Man enough!
My best friend and soul mate!
We all flew to the house, changed our clothes and began to pick up and clean. Josh strapped in the car seat and off we went. We had a vehicle follow us because we did not know what to expect and how dangerous it would get. We pulled in and got out.... there was a lot of hollering coming from the other vehicle. I told Josh to lets just go get a cop to come out so we would have a witness and supervision of the situation. The hand off of that ANGEL was amazing. I remember them handing her to me and she looked at me, kissed me in the mouth (snot and all) and laid her head on my shoulder. Keep in mind I have never physically laid eyes on her and her the same for me. We hurriedly got in the car and off we went.
Everyone ask how she adjusted and how she did her first night. Sister girl rocked it! She literally never missed a beat. She rode home playing with shades and a cell phone. We walked in to a lot of people in our house and she walked in like she owned the place. We had toys, cake and love waiting on her. She played and played and we laughed at every move she made. She went to sleep around 9:30 and slept till 7:30. Since then she hasn't looked back. I am "Mama" and Josh is "Da da or Daddddy". She has a Gram, Tom Tom, Pap, Papa, Nana, Aunt Ni Ni, Sissy (Lexi), Bubba (Logan) and Uncle Warren. She has called me Mama from the day 1. We are all absolutely smitten by her. She gets pretty much whatever she wants whenever she wants. Josh is amazing with her and she loves him so much. Josh is and has always been a very affectionate person so they are cuddle buddies. She thinks he is hilarious.
We want to thank everyone for the text, gifts, showers, words of encouragement, and mostly your prayers. Josh looked at me one day and said I never knew I could love something so quick and it not be biologically mine. Our home has changed so much and we have received the best gift ever. God was so watching over us the whole time and HE opened every door! Y'all just don't know! I get chills and my eyes water up when I think about it. He knew exactly what He was doing. I am so very thankful for unanswered prayers. I prayed so hard for so long for a him to give me a child that I could carry in my body. Little did I know he had something so much more perfect set a side for us. His timing is best and his way will always conquer our ways and wants.
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There will be many more post to come. I want to document everything bc she is such a busy body and I do not want to forget the milestones and memories of our ANGEL, Jada.
With Love,
Josh, Amber and Jada